Wednesday, July 06, 2005


It's A 2-way Thing
"It's A 2-way Thing" Dedicated to the many men who still haven't figured it out.
Think that the old saying isn't true?
Think that if you don't take care of her that she'll still take care of you?
Believe that if you don't treat her good that she'll still be good to you?
Good women have their limits too
Don't ever think that you have the one that will always stay with you
Don't ever take advantage that you found a good woman to be with you
Even good women hurt and get tired
Even a good woman's patience expires
There is a reason why Allah took her from your rib and not your feet
It's so that she's equal to you and not the dirt that lies underneath your feet
If you want her to take care of you, then do your part too
If you want her to always be loving, beautiful and true Let her know that you will always be those things too
No one is perfect and women understand that
But don't abuse that fact
What goes around comes around so don't think that Allah isn't watching you
Be faithful and good to her and she'll appreciate you more when she looks at you
Be gentle, considerate, honest, and loving and she'll make a King out of you
Don't underestimate the value of a good husband to a wife
A good husband doesn't have to worry about losing the good woman in his life
For it's a good man who truly understands that a woman is a delicate and special beauty
A special and sacred gift given by Allah's Mercy
He made woman strong enough to endure the world's pain
But made a good husband to be the one to wipe her tears when it becomes overwhelming pain It's the little things that count the most
It's the simplest things that make a good husband gain his great worth.
P.S. Women: the same goes for you! Alhamdulilah marriage is a two-way thing....Allah knew that one couldn't do it for two. If a husband and wife work together and bond together they will become the greatest team and a wonderful outlet for Allah's happiness.
By: Your Sis Dali


Blind Tawakkul

The same chorus is repeated over and over again, particularly with regards to marriage. This chorus is of the blind tawakkul school of thought, the school of thought that argues that since everything is willed, there's no point in putting any effort into doing good. Apparently, in "Islam," we believe that Allah (SWT) has already written for us who we are to get married to, so there's no reason to worry about who we marry.
Why marriage in particular? Last time I checked, Allah (SWT) willed everything.
To marry a pious spouse is obviously a good deed. So, all good deeds being equal, what if we saw the blind tawakkulites' logic through to completion? Any smart Muslim knows that good deeds require effort, though the effort might be large or small. So if tawakkulites reason that there is no point in putting effort into finding a spouse, why not apply their logic to prayer? According to their logic, it makes perfect sense, Islamically speaking, to sit down through the whole Super Bowl, miss however many salawaat would be missed, and say, "Allah (SWT) never willed for me to pray."
What about people in failed marriages? Would we tell a divorced woman who was battered in her previous marriage that she shouldn't put effort into looking for the right husband because everything is "willed" anyway?
What about the age-old custom of arranged marriages by parents? Blind tawakkulites overlook the many instances where someone actually looks for a spouse for their son or daughter. This doesn't keep with the tawakkulites' reasoning that a spouse will just fall in our laps.
This school of thought has spilled over into other instances as well - namely political activism. Obviously, if someone isn't praying, fasting, or giving in charity, then there are indeed other things to worry about aside from the oppression of the Palestinians. And, of course, our misdeeds and sins are more hurtful to the Chechens than Russia's bombs.
The blind tawakkulites, however, would have us believe that the success from Allah (SWT) will only come from our ibaadaat. As much as I would like for this to be true, as it might be seem to be the best way to get people to the masaajid, I think we all know that this is wrong.
The tawakkul line of thinking comes completely in line with efforts to separate Islam from all aspects of our life, to the point where Islam becomes SOMETHING ELSE.

TO AALLLLLL LIGHTS OUT THERE ; }


The Prophet Mohammed (Scw) said:
"God does not look at your forms and possessions, but He looks at your hearts and your deeds. "


60 Golden Ways To Gain Your Husband ; }


(THIS IS MY BELOVED COUSINE....FARHA...)
I'M UPESET...I HATE IT WHEN I EXPECT TOO MUCH,... I TRAIN MYSELF NOT TO, BUT
I ALWAYS FAIL...I NEVER EXPECT WHATS PERFECT, I JUST EXPECT FAIRNESS, AND
TRUTHFULNESS..BUT UNFORTUNATELY IT DOESNT WORK LIKE THAT WITH MOST
HUMANS,... ANYHOW, I GUESS ITS ALL STARTING FROM ME...JUST ME...I
SHOULDN'T BE THAAAAAAAAAAT FUSSY..
BUT I'LL NEVER GIVE UP...ALLAH IS ALWAYS THERE. HE IS THE MOST JUST OF
ALL..OF AAAAAAAAAALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL..
I AM SOOOOOOO HAPPY TO BE HIS SLAVE..NOBODY WOULD EVER LOVE ME AS HE
DOES..AND HE IS THE TRUTH.......MAY ALLAH BLESS EVERYBODY WITH THE LIGHT
OF HIS GUIDANCE . AMEN...

Monday, July 04, 2005

The Messenger of God said,
"Modesty is part of faith and fosters only goodness."
Muslim