Monday, August 01, 2005


Then come people,when you look them in the eyes, traveling to the depths of their souls and you say a million things without trace of a sound, you know that your own life is inevitable consumed within the rhythmic beatings of their very heart.We love them for a million reasons, No paper would do it justice. It is a thing not of the mind but of the heart. A feeling. Only felt.once in your life, whatever they were to the world they become everything to you.


sara said...

Peter Griffiths Daily Herald Column 1983
Travelling Through Life
Daily Herald July 23, 1983

Travelling through life involves many skills, one, of which, is knowing how to relate to others. There are three ways of relating, being passive, being assertive or being aggressive. Although you may aspire to behave assertively, you likely slip into passive or aggressive behavior at times. An important skill in life is knowing what to when that happens.

There is a difference between being passive and being quiet. Choosing to be quiet and listen, or choosing not to do anything about a situation, and feeling comfortable about those decisions, is an assertive act. Being passive is when you don’t stand up for your rights, not because you don’t want to, but because you are unable to, and don’t like yourself for the way you are reacting.

There is a difference between being angry and being aggressive. Expressing anger, raising the tone of your voice or working hard to act in a way you believe you have a right to behave, is an assertive act. Exploding in a blind rage or going ahead and doing what you want and thus imposing on the rights or feelings of others, is an aggressive act.

Behavior is like going on a trip in a car. It takes different amounts of energy and different responses from you to keep your car at a constant speed at different points in your journey. As your car starts up a hill, it slows down. You then must consciously apply more gas and supply more energy to compensate for the hill. If you allow gravity to take over, and don’t change your behavior, your car will slow down, or even stop.

This also occurs in your behaviors with others. Sometimes you face extra pressures that may overwhelm you, slow you down or shift you into passive behaviors. This happens if you don’t do anything in response to the pressure. At those times, you must consciously recognize your tendency to be passive and work at asserting your rights in that situation. Few people have automatic cruise controls in their personal lives.

It is easy to be assertive when life is going smoothly, like a car on a level road. It doesn’t take too much energy to maintain momentum. If you are getting along well with others, it is easy to claim and carry out your rights and responsibilities and to respect the rights of others. Sometimes you get onto a runaway course of action. You slip into an aggressive style of behavior. Many things can start this, such as new situations you aren’t used to, fear, anxiety, or old hurting situations, which suddenly come up again. If you don’t monitor yourself carefully, you can easily slip into an aggressive style of behavior.

You have to gear down or put on the brakes in a car when going down steep hills or you speed up dangerously. A same reaction is required when dealing with behavior towards others. Recognize that anger is moving you into an aggressive response. Put on your brakes. Talk things over in your mind to gain a better perspective. Re-think things through, using an assertive framework to respect your own rights and the rights of others. In your life, you are behind the driver’s seat. You are in charge. The more you maintain an assertive style of behavior, the more rewarding you will find your journey throughout it.

Small Blue Thing said...

... And for that The Prophet (PtH) said us to be merciful with travellers... Maybe to remember we are always travelling?

Once upon a time, one man said "Since now to my end, I'll have no name, no friends, no home. The world will be my home, everyone will be my friend, and my name will be "the awaken"." His name was Siddharta Gautama, and he used to be an Indian Prince before chosing living his life being compassionate with all the beings he met in his life. And because of that, many men and women followed them, just to try make this world a little better, with less material possesions and more spiritual friendship. And people in India who saw them, said "here goes the awaken".

The sanscrit word for "awaken" is Buddha :)

Salaam in our travel, sis.
Blue Thing

solitary animal said...

If you want to know what's true for you about something, look to how you are feeling about it. Feelings are sometimes difficult to discover-and often even more difficult to acknowledge. Yet hidden in your deepest feelings is your highest truth.

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