WELL,TODAY THIS WIERD, CUTE, STRANGE, AND FASCINATING THING HAPPENED TO ME..LETS SEE, I TEACH IN AN ELEMENTRY SCHOOL, AND I HAVE THIS VERY CLOSE RELATION SHIP WITH THE SWEETHEARTS WHO I TEACH..AS DAYS PASS BY,U GET TO HAVE BELOVED ONES ..SO LET ME EXPLAIN,....
YESTERDAY, WE WERE HAVING THIS ARTS CRAFTS DAY THINGY. AND WE WERE DOING CARDS, AND AS USUAL, I GIVE THEM THIS LITTLE TALK BEFORE WE START ANY TOPIC AND ASK THEM QUESTIONS..IN ORDER TO GET THEIR ATTENTION.SO I CAME ACROSS THIS CUTE BOY AND ASKED HIM: " HONEY, WHATS THE MOST THING THAT U LOVE ABOUT YOUR MUMMY??", THEN HE SAYS: " WELL, I HAVE NO MUMMY!!", SO I FELT SOOOOOO OVERWHELMED AND SAD THAT THIS CUTE KID IS AN ORPHAN AND I ASKED HIM THIS Q..HOW STUPID OF ME (i thought)... BUT THEN, I REMEMBERED THAT I SAW HIM SEVERAL TIMES WITH A MAN DROPPING HIM OF TO SCHOOL, SO, WHEN I ASKED HIM ABOUT THAT MAN, HE REPLIED: "THATS MY DAS FRIEND, HE IS LOOKING AFTER ME AT THE MOMENT, AS MY PARENTS WERE BURNT AND PASSED AWAY, AND EVEN LOOK AT MY ELBOW(he had a little bruise)..ITS 'CUZ OF THE FIRE.." AND THEN HE PUT ON THIS VERY SAD FACE..THEREFORE I HUGGED HIM AND WENT VERY SAD TOO.
THEN I COULDNT TAKE THIS INCIDENT OF MY HEAD, SO I GO DOWNSTAIRS TO THE ADMINISTRATION TO GET THE DETAILS OF THIS ORPHAN KID...THEN, AND THEN,,AND THEN, OOOOOOOOOOOOOHHHH GOD..THEN, THE SECRETARY TELLS ME THAT HIS PARENTS ARE ALIVE AND WELL, AND THAT NOTHING IS WRONG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!I WAS LIKE, CAN U PLZ LET ME TALK TO THE MOTHER..SO I CALLED HER UP, THEN I TOLD HER EVERYTHING, THEN, SHE SAID THAT NO FIRE TOOK PLACE AND THAT THAT THINGY ON HIS ELBOW WAS 'CUZ OF HIM TRIPPING DOWN THE STAIRS..THEN SHE SAID THAT SHE'S GONNA COME AND MEET UP WITH ME TODAY..I WAITED TODAY, TILL SHE CAME AND TOOK ME ASIDE AND SAID: " I TALKED TO HIM YESTERDAY, AND GUESS WHAT????, HE LOVES YOU SOOOOOOOOOO MUCH THAT HE WANTED A HUG AND A KISS AND THIS WAS THE WAY HE FIGURED OUT, THAT COULD GET YOUR ATTENTION, EVEN THOUGH HE'S NEVER BEEN THIS TYPE OF KIDS WHO USUALLY MAKE UP STORIES..."..AND THEN SHE CALLED HIM, AND BROUGHT HIM INFRONT OF ME AND ASKED HIM " DID U LIE 'CUZ U WANT A KISS?" THEN HE GOES LIKE : "YEAH!!!!"..
I DIDNT KNOW WHAT TO DO. !!!!!.
THEN SHE ASKED HIM NOT TO LIE AND THEN TOLD ME LATER THAT HE'S VERY JEALOUS OF SOME OTHER KIDS..
SEE HOW SENSITIVE THESE AMAZING CREATURES ARE..ALL PRAISE TO THE LORD, REALLY, ALL GLORY TO HIM THE CREATOR OF EXISTENCE...
the first thing i did was to ensure that he really knows that i still love him, and will never stop loving him, no matter what he does. (This may seem obvious to you, but not all children understand it). And I made sure that he has lots of cuddles and special time . Telling him he's 'big' may only make it worse, if it seems to him that it's much more fun being the baby. I only Tried to talk about him being big when it's an obvious advantage. For instance, big children can eat chocolate, and babies can't. Big boys can ride bikes... Don't push the idea that 'big children don't fight' (or cry, or throw tantrums, or LIE) or any other issues which he might see as negative..
and may Allah grant me the strength to be as fair as i can , cuz i will be asked about how i made them feel..and hope am up to it..amen..